Have you ever wanted to know the difference between a yacht and a boat?

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The answer is superiority.  Yes, my friends, a yacht is far superior to a boat.

How does this apply to weddings, you ask…in the middle of a desert?  Well, I’m sure you all have been to your share of weddings.  There was probably dancing, some cake and a few cheesy toasts.  But, have you even been to a really, totally, crazy-awesome wedding?  I’m talking about where everything felt perfect, seamless, sincere and magical?  The ceremony gave you warm fuzzies, there was laughter, tears of joy and you danced your buns off until the wee hours? That’s what I’m talking about: the yacht of a wedding.

What’s the secret to throwing such an event?  There are certainly a few tricks to making this happen.  It doesn’t just come together because you’ve checked the necessary objects off the ol’ list.  Well, I got a photographer, a cake and some flowers…I’m good to go, right?  Ehhh, there’s a little more to it.  It takes plenty of planning, thought and a good amount of elbow grease.  First off, coordinating a yacht of an event requires a captain and a crew.

You may not realize it, but as you hire your vendors (florist, photographer, baker, caterer, DJ etc.), you are assembling a crew.  They will work with you through the entire planning process and they will also be working with each other.  You want to make sure you have the best support team you can get.  This doesn’t necessarily mean you need the most expensive team for your wedding to be perfect; you need the fit to be perfect, for you.

Next, you’ll need a captain.  And let me tell you, it’s pretty hard to be the captain while you’re trying to be the bride or groom, or mother of the bride…you get the idea.  The captain should be at the helm, overseeing the event from an objective point of view, when you should be in the middle of the event, having a great time and being with all of your guests.  If you’re able to enjoy and be present at your event, your guests will enjoy it too.  As the host, if you’re worried about the plating of the cake and the cueing of the songs, you won’t be present to enjoy the cake or the songs. Wedding planners come to the rescue as the woman (or man) behind the curtain, making sure everything goes off without a hitch, attending to anything that may arise and keeping your day smooth and enjoyable.  Allow someone removed from the party to be your safety net, to take care of the small things and trust them.  The whole point is to have a great time at your own wedding, right?

But most importantly, and I can’t stress this enough, a yacht of a wedding is one that truly reflects the bride and the groom. That is the simplest piece of advice I can give.  Your wedding doesn’t have to be expensive and super-fancy to be amazing.  The best weddings I have ever witnessed are the ones that are infused with the couple’s personalities.  Incorporating elements that represent who you are as a couple will translate to your guests, the people that know and love you. It will tie the experience together with a beautiful thread and create a memorable event for everyone.

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